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Wednesday, March 30, 2011

True Relationship

True relationship requires both parties to give and to take. There cannot one person who is consistently leaching off of others, there cannot be unrealistic expectations, there cannot be prejudice or jealousy, there cannot be lies, there cannot be divisiveness or manipulation... there must be respect, there must be GRACE.

Without grace you have NO true relationship! Only what you may think is relationship. Empty acquaintances really...

People who love us most celebrate who we are as individuals and as husband and wife/father and mother; and we in turn, can celebrate who they are as individuals and as husbands and wives/fathers and mothers.  People who love us have our best as their interest when they're with us; and we in turn, have their best at heart.

It all comes down to this:

1 Corinthians 13:2-8a

"And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing.
And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned, but have not love, it profits me nothing.Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy, love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek it's own, is not provoked, thinks no evil' does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails."

You miss out on so much if you find yourself unable to love no-strings-attached. If you find yourself unable to see past self and love someone so deeply that you're unafraid to do or say what is inconvenient for you, you're missing out. The rewards of loving someone deeply are great.

Truth is, no one really knows how to love exactly as was laid out in 1 Corinthians... but, by grace through a relationship with Jesus Christ we can strive to love one another as Christ loved the church. Selflessly, devotedly and passionately.

Lord may I ever be found loving others as You love me.


MrsWendy said...


Sarah Howe said...

Loving with no strings attached.... means dying to self.... which takes the heart of Christ.... which takes humility... And it's all worth it!

Summer said...

I may say that many relationships that exist today are one sided
....And yet at the same time when we have a very sincere relationship relationship with our SAVIOUR we come to know that these people who "think" they have relationships with us yet constantly take and take actually don't truly know any better ....As we become more mature in our faith we must make the decision to stand for CHRIST no matter what.... We also must love others from an unconditional standpoint even if they do not love us back the way CHRIST did ( this is very hard to do and impossible to do without knowing JESUS ) ....My favorite chapter in the BIBLE is actually
the 1st Corinthians 13:1-13 ....This speaks volumes and allows GRACE to do its work while not knocking the LAW down ....I have had relationships where people (christian professing)
took advantage of me immensely ....But I also have to examine where I am in my own faith that would have allowed me to allow
that to happen (as it squelched my spirit when it was happening )
....All things aside it took a lot of prayer , forgiveness and study to come away from the old relationship with this woman and be lifted up instead of squelched
in my spirit and I see she is still doing what she did to me to another person ....So I needed to change in order to be ok again
....I will lift you up to the LORD today ....Praise HIS NAME

Hannah McConnell said...

Hello All,

Thank you for your comments :)

Unconditional love is what Christ was all about... no-strings-attached. We will never know how to love as Christ would love perfectly. Sometimes love is a tough love and it's like what you said... you have to pray and seek God's wisdom in relationship that affect not only your relationship with Christ... but maybe even your relationships with others.
After much prayer my husband and I have finally found a place of peace where we've discovered that there is no greater love than the love of Jesus Christ... and the relationships that "zap" us physically, emotionally and physically don't need to have huge investments of our time... rather we need to invest ourselves in those relationship that are healthy.

Summer said...

What a wonderful decision you have made with great counsel .Thank you for coming on board over at my site .....

Luxy Living said...

Wow!... Just had a heart to heart with our 16 year old daughter about loving unconditional and friendships, and came across this post and just had to read it to her. She said "very cool!" (Typical for a teenager.) Te hehe Very well written and oh so true. Thank you for being a special part of touching our daughters heart.

Be blessed,

Hannah McConnell said...

Thank you Fuchsia, it's encouraging to me that it could touch someones heart!